Personal Coaching
Personal Coaching
Personal coaching is about helping you set goals in life and helping you achieve them
Inverurie wellness centre has two available therapists Dr Susan Murray and Mark Hepburn. Appointments can be in Inverurie or Aberdeen and we also offer online counselling.
Personal Coaching
Life Coaching helps people to focus on what they really want and then develop a plan of action, which is SMART (specific, measurable, realistic and time framed), which will ultimately help them attain their goal.
As a life coach I help people to identify their strengths and weaknesses and then eliminate what is not working in their life. As fallible human beings we all have weaknesses, but all too often, people can become obsessive when they feel they are not coming up to their own expectations. Procrastination is one of the main reasons why people fail to achieve their aims and that is why goal setting is so important in the coaching process. The client feels in control, even though they may be challenged from time to time by the coach. Once a client has tackled the obstacles they have put in their way, they become empowered to make the changes needed and attain success in their lives.
What is the difference between life coaching and counselling?
Two of the first questions people often ask me are, “What is the difference between counselling and life coaching?”, and "How do I decide what is right for me?". So, to help with that decision I will explain the difference between the two therapy modes here.
There is a slight cross over between counselling and coaching, insomuch as in both helping roles, the client is given a private and confidential space to discuss their concerns and find ways in which to deal with them. However, the difference between counselling and life coaching is best described as follows:
People who seek the help of a counsellor have usually found themselves in a predicament they cannot seem to find a way out of. Or, they may have suffered a bereavement/loss or are facing some kind of crisis that is really getting them down.
If you are going through a challenging time right now, then you may be considering counselling, but are not sure whether to take the plunge. Unfortunately, there is still a stigma attached to counselling where some people think that only people who are mentally disturbed seek the help of a therapist. Well that is certainly true, but when you are trying to get through challenging circumstances, such as living in an abusive relationship or trying to come to terms with a relationship or marriage break up, then mentally, you may find yourself extremely disturbed!
As a counsellor, I help people to :-
Gain clarity and perspective of the problems they are facing
Help them to find their own solutions to the problems they are facing
Give them the space to be themselves and to be open and honest about the way they truly feel
Help them to develop their own self-concept so that they are more capable of making their own decisions rather than looking to the ‘so-called’ experts in their lives, to tell them what to do.
Discover more about themselves and become self-aware
Help them to accept themselves and accept others
Help them to determine what is not working in their lives and support them in relinquishing limiting beliefs and behaviours
Help them to put closure on the past
Help them to perceive or respond to things differently so they feel able to communicate their feelings to those they love, more effectively
Help them deal with issues from the past that are stopping them from moving forward
What counselling isn’t:-
Counselling isn’t about providing solutions or telling a person what to do, it is about giving them the space to find their own solutions.
Counselling is not coaching or mentoring.
It is not bias towards certain cultures or traditions
As counsellor, I have no personal agenda or bias opinion of the client’s life. Therefore, it is much easier for me to be more supportive because when rapport has been established with the client, it puts them at ease, and they can be themselves.
Life Coaching on the other hand, helps people to focus on what they really want and then develop a plan of action, which is SMART (specific, measurable, realistic and time framed), which will ultimately help them attain their goal. Coaching can be deemed to be mentoring, especially when a client seeks the help of a coach to help them turn their business around, or work with staff who are experiencing conflict with one another.
As a coach, I have the ability to listen to what the client is really saying and then as I reflect back their thoughts and feelings it helps them to gain an insight into what actions could be considered, in order to make the changes needed to attain personal success. When this happens, it is great to observe your client having a ‘light bulb’ moment – where suddenly everything is becoming crystal clear and they can now see a way forward.
Coaching helps to re-inforce self-belief in a client and if the coach is doing their job properly, by the end of the coaching process, a client will walk away feeling like they can tackle or achieve anything their heart desires!
What coaching isn’t:-
It is not counselling.
It is not about offering solutions or providing answers. A coach encourages the client to do that for him/herself.
It does not focus on the past.
So, whatever you are going through in your life right now, whatever challenge you may be facing, you now have some insight into what form of therapy may help you to overcome the difficulties you may be experiencing. Choosing to enter into counselling or life coaching is a brave step, but for those who choose to do it, the rewards can be life changing. So, don’t waste another minute worrying about ‘what if’s’, take the plunge and make some positive changes in your life NOW – before it is too late……………..
